Understanding my teenager through Human Design…
I’ve never been one to follow others or follow peer pressure.
Since I was young, I was happy to stand out of the crowd and be different. I remember being different and very discerning in year 7, staying out of all the friendship fights and making my own rules as I went along! When I reflect this is something I continued to do as an adult, especially the last few years, defying norms, creating crazy goals like teaching myself to run ultramarathons, moving locations, leaving the corporate world, moving interstate. It’s taught me many times during my life that this path is infinitely better for me than following a crowd or a trend.
I have taught my children this resilience and the ability to stand alone. They know it’s ok to be different, to stand out from the crowd. Navigating parenting a teenager has been a ride! The thing with teenagers is that they want to be seen. By their friends, peers, teachers, coaches.
Human design has helped me over the last four years really understand myself first, my partner and my children. The knowledge of my teenager’s individual Human Design, how he makes decisions and what lights him up is such an incredible tool. It has certainly helped me be a better, calmer parent and understand my son, his type (manifestor) and how he makes decisions (solar plexus emotional authority).
I have watched my 14 year old, 4/6 emotional manifestor son become a teenager through this lense. While anyone who has experienced a teenager will tell you it can be a challenge, it can also be a really rewarding experience, especially when you give them the space and safety to be who they really are.
Manifestors can be very single minded about a goal. I have seen my son create and follow countless goals until he reaches them. He is brilliant at making sure he reaches that goal. And whilst it can seem like he may not care about other people or things in his path, I have learnt to understand that he is not even thinking about them. He is so fixated on the end goal. That’s it!
His emotional (solar plexus) decision making authority means that he rides an emotional wave when he makes decisions. This means something will always seem enticing and exciting to start with and he will say yes to it. It will also mean that a few hours or a day later that thing is the last thing he wants to do. He is learning to ride the ups and downs of the emotional wave and wait until it has come to a still point before he makes a decision. As a parent I can be aware of this and know when he needs some space and when he is ready to make a decision.
This is just one way I use Human Design to understand him better and work with what he needs. Want to know more or chat about a parent/child reading? Email me at diala@diala.com.au or connect with me on Instagram.